What Does It Actually Mean to Love Like Jesus?
Love is one of the most talked-about topics in the world, and yet it remains one of the most misunderstood. We throw the word around casually, attach it to preferences and feelings, and quietly reserve it for the people who make it easy. But what if genuine love — the kind that transforms communities, disarms enemies, and reflects the heart of God — looks radically different from what we have settled for?
Romans 12:9-21 lays out one of the most challenging and practical pictures of love found anywhere in Scripture. It is not a soft, sentimental portrait. It is a call to something costly, something counter-cultural, and ultimately something that is only possible through the power of God working in us.
Love Without a Mask
Paul opens with a striking command: let love be sincere. The Greek word he uses literally means without hypocrisy. In the ancient world, the word hypocrite was borrowed from the theater, where actors would hold up masks to portray different characters. Paul is essentially saying, do not wear a mask of love while hiding something entirely different underneath.
This is a word that cuts deep. It is possible to say the right things, smile at the right moments, and still harbor bitterness, jealousy, or contempt beneath the surface. Hypocritical love is transactional — it gives in order to receive. It is conditional — it extends warmth only to those who agree, who behave, who belong to the right group. It is situational — it shows up when convenient and disappears when things get hard.
The contrast Paul draws is the agape love of God. This is not the romantic love of eros, nor the friendship love of philia, nor the family affection of storge. Agape is selfless, sacrificial, and unconditional. It is not primarily driven by emotion or attraction, but by will and commitment — choosing to act for someone else's good regardless of what comes back in return. This is the love God demonstrated when He gave Himself for us. And it is the love He calls us to walk in daily.
When Everything Feels Like It Is Falling Apart: Is God Still For You?
There is a question that most people, at some point in their lives, find themselves asking in the quiet moments — when the diagnosis comes back with bad news, when the marriage begins to unravel, when the job disappears, when grief settles in like a weight that will not lift. The question is simple, but it cuts deep: Is God against me?
It is a question born out of pain, not rebellion. When life presses hard enough, even the most faithful person can find themselves wondering whether God has turned his back, whether something they did has caused him to withdraw his love, whether their salvation is even real. If you have ever been there, you are not alone. And more importantly, there is an answer.
Romans chapter 8, beginning at verse 31, speaks directly into that question with a boldness that is almost startling. The apostle Paul, writing to believers who knew suffering well, does not offer platitudes or easy comfort. He offers something far more durable: a case built on what God has actually done.
Since God Is For Us
Paul opens with a declaration that has become one of the most quoted phrases in all of Scripture. He asks who can be against us if God is for us. But it is worth pausing on the word "if." In the original language, this word does not carry doubt. It carries certainty. A better reading might be: since God is for us, who can be against us?
This is not a promise that life will be smooth or that opposition will disappear. The word "against" in this context carries the idea of working against us to our undoing — to overturn or unravel what God has done. Paul is making the point that no force in existence can undo what God has accomplished in redeeming a person. The salvation God gives is not fragile. It does not depend on our ability to hold on. As Philippians 1:6 reminds us, the one who began a good work in us will be faithful to carry it through to completion.
Hope That Holds: Finding God in the Middle of Suffering
Suffering is not a detour from the Christian life. It is part of the road itself.
That is not the message most of us want to hear. We want a faith that smooths out the rough places, that keeps the storms at bay and guarantees comfortable outcomes. But the ancient letter of Paul to the church in Rome, written roughly twenty years after the death and resurrection of Jesus, tells us something far more honest and, ultimately, far more powerful: suffering is woven into the fabric of following Christ. And because of that, it does not have to destroy us.
The question is not whether we will suffer. The question is what we will do with it when it comes.
Suffering as Identification with Christ
Romans 8:17 describes believers as co-heirs with Christ, sharing in his sufferings so that we may also share in his glory. The original Greek word for "suffer with" carries the meaning of experiencing pain jointly. This is not a cold legal transaction. It is an invitation into intimacy.
Think about what it means to truly know someone. You can hear stories about a person, look at photographs, read about their life. But there is a depth of knowing that only comes through shared experience. When we enter into our own suffering and look for Christ in the middle of it, we come to understand something about Jesus that no mountaintop moment can teach us. He is described in Isaiah 53 as a man of sorrows, acquainted with grief. We do not fully grasp that dimension of who he is until we have walked through grief ourselves.
This reframes everything. Suffering is not evidence that God has abandoned you. It is an opportunity to know him in a way you never could otherwise.